five ways to be here now
I don't know about you but I find this hard.
With a head in the clouds full of what ifs and how to's, it can be difficult to remember that all we have is right now. The past and the future are irrelevant and only exist in our heads, I try to keep that in mind. It doesn't always work.
I have to constantly remind myself to be like George and live in the present moment, to stop drifting off to a past that can't be changed, stop looking forward to a future that doesn't exist. I can't help it, I'm a dreamer, a thinker, a planner, an escapist. I need one of those elastic bands on my wrist to snap myself back to now every so often.
Luckily I have that elastic band. She is called Betsy.
She is a constant reminder to be in the now. She lives in the moment, every moment of every day. She doesn't really have a concept of time only that she knows when she wakes up from her nap she'll be able to watch Postman Pat. I love that about her. She is magical. She makes the mundane seem fabulous. We have fun at the shops, in the car, watching telly, walking the dog. She even makes picking up dog poo a wonderful experience telling me yesterday as I scooped up a whopper, 'good job mummy'!
Here are five more, child unrelated, ways to be here now.
1. Sit down and have a cup of tea, coffee or whatever you fancy. Just sit and stare and be. Smell the tea, feel the heat of the mug, go off to that spacey state of mindfulness that feels like a comfy pair of slippers. Do not pick up your phone, your laptop or turn on your tv. Just enjoy a cup of tea. Tea is great.
2. Focus on your breathing, even if it's just for a few seconds, but 60 seconds would be excellent. Feeling your breath centres you, brings you back to you, the magic of you. If you can manage this a few times a day, you will begin to feel much lighter, brighter and more present.
3. Count to ten. Slowly, surely and inevitably. Do the count, feel the calm descend.
4. Sit in the garden or the park and listen to the birds singing. Birds aren't worried about who to have over for Christmas or what dress to wear and birds sing a lot. Blissful creatures.
5. Put that song on, you know the song, the one that makes you dance. Put it on and just dance. My song is Bizarre Inc, Playing With Knives. I can't not dance when this song is playing.
I know you're wondering if they work. Give one a go, in fact give them all a go, I would be particularly happy if you put that song on (that song) at the train station, in the supermarket, out running. Do it, make the world smile, at least make the world be thankful that they're not the idiot in the running gear dancing up the road. Evidence of another's insanity is always guaranteed to make the people smile.
Do you have any tried and tested tips on being present? Are you guilty of fretting over the past?